Why Do Golfers Complain So Much?

Golfers have a reputation for whinging. Fergus Bisset wonders if it is justified and, if so, where does it stem from?

Nick Bonfield complaining about a golf shot
How could this have happened?
(Image credit: Kevin Murray)

Golf is a challenging and highly frustrating sport. There’s no question those characteristics are part and parcel of the game for every player, whether beginner or elite professional.

There is just so much within golf to infuriate and exasperate. That’s a principal reason why golfers seem to moan so much. There’s an awful lot to complain about.

There’s a good deal of luck involved in the game, perhaps more so than in most other sports. You are reliant on conditions, the lie, the bounce of the ball and sometimes these factors can play as significant a role in your round as your actual sporting performance.

You might face a rainstorm during your 18 holes that those who play at a different time of day do not. That’s worth complaining about.

Many (or most) golfers believe they are the most unfortunate player on the planet. I wonder who actually is the most unfortunate player on the planet? Somebody must be… but it’s probably not me, or you.

The thing is golf is a selfish game and it’s sometimes difficult to recognise that others are facing the same travails that you are.

“How could it have ended up there?”; “Where did that gust of wind come from?”; “How has that missed?” We all feel these things almost every time we play. The trick is internalising the disbelief and agony. That’s not easy.

Getting too angry on golf course

Aaargghhh!

(Image credit: Kenny Smith)

Classic deflection

Golfers like to think they’re uniquely unlucky. They also like to think that poor shots, and rounds, are simply not their fault.

For that reason, they like to blame anything else they possibly can. A favourite complaint is about the state of a golf course. The greens take the brunt of it normally. They’re either too slow, too fast, too bumpy, too grainy or just plain bad!

But you’ll also hear complaints about the type of sand in the bunkers, the length of fairway cut, the tee positioning, the tree management programme, the thickness of the rough….

All golfers are part-time greenkeepers, and any perceived mismanagement of the course can be responsible for players not pulling off the shot they “should” have been able to. It’s just deflection.

Then, there’s the fact that golf can be pretty expensive and expectations are high. That tends to lead to complaints when those expectations are not met.

If you pay thousands a year for your membership, you might expect the catering to be of a certain standard, the heating to be on in the locker rooms, the course to be available whenever you want it… If those things don’t happen, people complain.

Or, if you’ve visited somewhere and shelled out a hefty fee, you’re likely to be miffed if they’ve decided that’s the day the greens are going to be cored… cue complaints.

There are myriad reasons why golfers complain, but of course people complain in general about whatever’s currently niggling them.

In fact, I think golfers are among the most optimistic people out there. They must be. All evidence points to the fact the chances of a stellar round are tiny, but we all go out each time with hope and belief that this will be 'the one'. Incredible delusion.

Perhaps that’s the real reason golfers are seen as moaners. We are actually too positive about what’s going to happen.

We truly believe there will be a break in the weather, that the course will be playing nicely in mid-November and that we will have suddenly developed a nice soft draw overnight.

We set out with blind optimism and are quickly brought back down to earth and the complaints flow. If we managed our own expectations a little better, we might take it all on the chin.

Fergus Bisset
Contributing Editor

Fergus is Golf Monthly's resident expert on the history of the game and has written extensively on that subject. He has also worked with Golf Monthly to produce a podcast series. Called 18 Majors: The Golf History Show it offers new and in-depth perspectives on some of the most important moments in golf's long history. You can find all the details about it here.

He is a golf obsessive and 1-handicapper. Growing up in the North East of Scotland, golf runs through his veins and his passion for the sport was bolstered during his time at St Andrews university studying history. He went on to earn a post graduate diploma from the London School of Journalism. Fergus has worked for Golf Monthly since 2004 and has written two books on the game; "Great Golf Debates" together with Jezz Ellwood of Golf Monthly and the history section of "The Ultimate Golf Book" together with Neil Tappin , also of Golf Monthly.

Fergus once shanked a ball from just over Granny Clark's Wynd on the 18th of the Old Course that struck the St Andrews Golf Club and rebounded into the Valley of Sin, from where he saved par. Who says there's no golfing god?

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